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A ‘Family Hero’ Of Vietnam War Will Be Remembered At Military Cemetery

A ‘Family Hero’ Of Vietnam War Will Be Remembered At Military Cemetery

By Brittny Mejia, Los Angeles Times (TNS)

LOS ANGELES — Monteen Purdie cut the strings off an apron, then starched and ironed them before delicately placing them inside a card for her son.

Almost half a century later, Linda Smith reminded her mother of the gift she gave to Robert in 1967 as he headed to basic training for the Marines — as a boy became a man leaving a mother for war.

“I don’t think he got how symbolic that was,” Smith, who was 26 when her brother enlisted, said tearfully.

On Memorial Day, Purdie will visit the grave of her son — whom most everyone called David — at the Los Angeles National Cemetery. It will be her 100th birthday.

He was killed in action Aug. 23, 1968 in Vietnam. Marines will join her family at David’s headstone, where they will play taps and present Purdie with a U.S. flag.

“We were blessed to have David,” Purdie said.

This year marks the 50th anniversary of U.S. combat troops being sent to fight in Vietnam. About 2.7 million American men and women served in Vietnam, and more than 58,000 of them lost their lives during the war, according to the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs.

Rex Kern, director of the Los Angeles National Cemetery, will open the cemetery’s Memorial Day ceremony with a speech about the importance of honoring Vietnam War veterans.

“These young men and women were thrust into a situation where they were thousands of miles away from home … watching their buddies getting killed and then to come home and have the American public reject them like they did was a real slap in the face,” Kern said. “I think it’s a long time coming that we honor our Vietnam veterans.”

Smith still remembers the pride etched on David’s face when he announced at a family dinner that he’d enlisted. Those closest to him knew it wasn’t a spontaneous decision.

His childhood friend Bill Wentz said the two had a strong desire to serve. David was one of the first in their group of friends to join the military.

“We thought it was our duty to defend the homeland,” Wentz said. “Dave was very gung-ho. … We were all proud of him.”

David’s enlistment came as a shock to his mother. She wasn’t ready to let him go. David, the third of her five children, was 20.

“I thought, David is so young, he hasn’t lived here long enough,” Purdie said. “I didn’t want him to go off to Vietnam. I didn’t want anybody shooting at my son.”

She rested her hand against her cheek, remembering the short stubble of David’s beard as he kissed her goodbye before boarding his flight to Vietnam with chocolate chip cookies she had baked just for him.

Purdie sent dozens of letters to David. He wrote back, telling her about Vietnam and joking about rats as large as cats. He told her he wasn’t on the front lines, that he was safe.

One day late in August she came home to find a Marine standing in the family room. Her sister held back sobs as she told Purdie that he was there to deliver news about David.

“Oh, good, you know David,” Purdie told the Marine. “Can you tell me about David?”

“And he said, ‘Ma’am, David won’t be coming home. He was killed in Vietnam,'” she recalled.

Letters came, from childhood friends, from men who served with him in Vietnam. One told her that David had given his life trying to save another man.

More than 1,000 people turned out for David’s service.

So many years later, Purdie said she still remembers how her son would turn serious every time he wore his uniform, all business. A Marine.

Wearing a red, white and blue scarf knotted around her neck, Purdie spoke in a low voice roughened by age. She mused about the years of her son’s life that were missed — the woman he never got to fall in love with, the children he never got to raise.

Losing him, Purdie told her daughter, left her with a “hurt that never goes away.”

The family has kept a framed drawing of David, surrounded by honors including a Purple Heart, and a book of memories they put together after his death, including letters and pictures from his time in Vietnam.

“He’s our family’s hero,” said Laura Smith, David’s niece. “Grief is generational, grief lives. He died, but we live with it. There’s a void in your heart that never gets filled.”

(c)2015 Los Angeles Times. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency, LLC.

Photo: Monteen Purdie, 99, sits in front of her granddaughter’s house in Orange, Calif., on May 6, 2015. As a parent who lost a son in the Vietnam War, she is now the oldest living “Gold Star Mother.” On Memorial Day, Purdie and her family will visit the grave of Marine Corps Cpl. Robert Purdie at the Los Angeles National Cemetery — the same day she will turn 100. (Don Bartletti/Los Angeles Times/TNS)

Dartmouth College Bans Hard Alcohol On Campus As Part Of Reforms

Dartmouth College Bans Hard Alcohol On Campus As Part Of Reforms

By Brittny Mejia, Los Angeles Times (TNS)

Dartmouth College is banning hard alcohol on campus and threatening to disband organizations that don’t shape up as part of efforts to “root out extreme behavior,” the school’s president announced Thursday amid controversies enveloping universities across the nation.

Dartmouth President Philip Hanlon announced the “Moving Dartmouth Forward” plan in a speech Thursday morning after a school committee had studied campus issues for months. The plan includes banning hard alcohol for students on campus, implementing a four-year sexual-violence-prevention program and creating new residential communities.

“Colleges and universities across the country face the issues I’ve detailed today,” Hanlon said. “We are not alone in facing them. But we will take the lead in saying, ‘No more.'”

The Ivy League school is one of 95 that is under federal investigation in connection with its handling of sexual harassment and violence. Last year, Dartmouth adopted a zero-tolerance sexual-assault disciplinary policy, with mandatory expulsion in the worst cases.

Under the new plan, undergraduate students won’t be allowed to have or consume hard alcohol, which it defines as alcohol that is 30 proof or higher, in residential areas or on other college property, and hard alcohol won’t be served at college-recognized events, Hanlon said. Penalties for those who have or purchase hard alcohol will “ramp up,” he said.

Hanlon also addressed the college’s Greek community, saying many had suggested over the last few months that the college eliminate fraternities and sororities.

“Ultimately, I do not believe that simply eliminating this one aspect of campus life would be a comprehensive, or even effective solution to the more pervasive challenges we face,” Hanlon said. “It would not address the charge I placed before our community of purging extreme behaviors where they occur on campus.”

However, he said, Greek and other organizations will face a higher level of accountability than in the past, with the college creating an annual review process to confirm that expectations for student organizations are being met.

“Everything is possible for Dartmouth. But our aspirations will never be realized if we fail to address a vital component: the environment in which our students live and learn,” said Hanlon, who has led the Hanover, N.H., school since mid-2013.

The U.S. Department of Education is investigating a total of 98 sexual violence cases at 95 colleges and universities, and the issue of sexual assault on campuses has been receiving increased national attention.

On Tuesday, two former Vanderbilt University football players were found guilty for their roles in a dorm room gang rape of an unconscious female student in 2013.

In November, the University of Virginia suspended all of its fraternities and sororities after fallout over a Rolling Stone article in which a woman, identified only as “Jackie,” said she was gang raped at a fraternity party.

Although the story was later discredited by Washington Post reporting and the magazine admitted there were discrepancies in the woman’s account, the story roiled the campus. Greek activity was shut down for the fall semester and through winter break, and this month, fraternities and sororities had to agree to a slew of stipulations before their activities could resume.

The university’s National Pan-Hellenic Council, consisting of eight fraternities and sororities, banned hard liquor at sponsored events and agreed to ensure half of its members remain sober at sponsored events.

Vanderbilt and the University of Virginia are both on the list of schools under federal investigation in connection with the handling of sexual harassment and violence.

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